Wednesday, October 27, 2010

A Halloween party pooper

As we were singing our closing song at church on Sunday, a certain line jumped out at me and has been haunting me ever since. The song was "Now Thank We All Our God" and then particular line I am referring to is "...and guide us when perplexed..."

You see, I am perplexed. I just do not get this whole Halloween thing. For me, celebrating this so-called "holiday" involves a total lack of common sense.

Okay, I know I have just lost a whole lot of fans right now, but please bear with me and at least hear me out. Let me explain the reasons why we never celebrated Halloween as my kids were growing up.
  • Putting the origins of the day aside, what is modern-day Halloween centered on? Death. Evil. Monsters. Blood. Gore. Slasher movies. Okay, sure, it is very cute to see a toddler dressed up like a bunny, or a kindergartener prancing around in her princess garb. There is nothing wrong with dressing up and make-believe. May I suggest reserving it for another time, such as a birthday party, when the atmosphere is not surrounded by evil? I personally hate driving around seeing coffins, bodies hanging from trees, skeletons, tombstones, bloody corpses, etc. To think that people actually spend money to make their homes look so darned ugly is beyond me. Let me tell you something. Anyone who has experienced the traumatic death of a loved one most likely finds these images disturbing at the very least. I should know. October is such a magnificently beautiful time of year, but it is marred by the images of death (not to mention the political litter everywhere!).
  • Trick or treat is such a bizarre practice. Again, where is the common sense here? All year long, your kids hear the message, "Don't take candy from strangers!" Then on October 31st, that message is thrown out the window when parents send their little ones door-to-door collecting treats...treats that then have to be x-rayed at the local fire station to make sure there are no razors or pins inserted in them. What?!? Are you kidding me?!? And the explanation that the kids are only going trick-or-treating in their neighborhood holds no water with me. How many of you really know all of your neighbors? I know I don't. My parents trusted all of our neighbors...and let me tell you -- they shouldn't have.
  • Mischief is encouraged on Halloween. Toilet papering someone's yard seems harmless enough, but it creates a lot of clean up work for the victim. What other time of year is this even remotely okay? Then there is the egging of cars and homes. But aren't kids given the message somehow that mischievous activity is acceptable on Halloween? After all, the phrase they're taught from the time they first knock on a door is "Trick or treat." The implication here is, "Give me a treat or I am going to do something nasty." Nice. This was illustrated so perfectly last night on the show, GLEE, when one of the characters said to a teacher, "Give me chocolate or I'm going to cut you." Enough said.
  • Candy. Lots and lots of candy. Who lets their kids eat that much crap?! Seriously?
  • Occult activity. If you think it doesn't happen, get your head out of the sand! There is no other time of the year when occult activity is so prevalent. None. Every year, police stations across the country receive calls about discoveries of the remains of animals that have been sacrificed. Most times these burnt remains are that of beloved family pets.
Will the occult activity cease if you don't let your kids dress up and go door-to-door collecting candy? Of course not. But in the case of my family, I could never see the sense of participating in an activity that goes against so much of what I stand for.

Let me give you a scenario to think about.

On Halloween, you take your little girl around the neighborhood trick-or-treating. The neighbor man at the corner asks her what her name is. She looks up at you, questioning whether or not it is proper to answer him. You nod and say it is okay. She tells him her name and he throws some candy in her bucket.

The next day, your daughter is walking home from the bus stop. The kind neighbor sees her walking by and calls out to her.

"Suzy, I have some candy left from last night," he tells her. "Why don't you come in and I'll give you some."

"I can't," she says, hesitantly. "I'm not allowed to take candy from strangers."

"Strangers?!" the neighbor feigns hurt. "I'm not a stranger. Your mom let you take candy from me last night, remember?" He coaxes her further. "I saved some candy just for you! You're my favorite little neighbor."

"Well, okay," Suzy says. "I guess it's okay."

Bam. The neighborhood pedophile just lured in his prey. And you gave him the bait he needed.

Think it doesn't happen that way? Let me tell you that it does. Please, please, be very careful.

So, looks like my kids missed out on all of the fun 'cause Momma's a Halloween party pooper, huh? I wish you could ask them yourselves how they felt about it. They would answer and tell you that some of their favorite childhood memories were from our time together on October 31st each year, because it was a really special day.

I often took them out of school early on Halloween, so they didn't have to be exposed to the evil costumes some parents think it are okay for their children to don. I also did not want them participating in the seemingly innocent occult activities that were often planned for the day.

Late in the day, we would head out to Chuck E. Cheese where other like-minded parents would gather to have a fun time with their kids while the neighborhood streets filled up with the little ghosts, goblins, and a Freddy Kreugger or two. We had a ball. Occasionally, one of their friends would tag along, asking their parents if they could skip trick-or-treating and join us instead. As the years passed, my daughters wanted to continue our tradition, so we did...all the way until the youngest was 19, I believe. Eventually, we added a movie to the night.

There was a lull in years between our last trip to Chuck E. Cheese on Halloween and the dawning of a new era. Last year, our tradition resumed with one-year-old Laura's first visit. This weekend, she will spend her second Halloween with Chuck E. and her two-month-old cousin, Lincoln. The tradition continues. I love Halloween.

Sticking to common sense,



  1. I love this tradition Hana! I grew up spending my Halloween nights at the Church Harvest parties. We dressed up as either Biblical characters or animals. No blood guts gore or demonic beings there. It was fun! Not sure what we are doing for Joan this year, it'll be her first Halloween and I really don't want to scare her or set a bad example for her.

  2. You did not lose me as a fan. We chose not to celebrate Halloween in the traditional way a long time ago. We don't miss out on anything. We usually spend the night at home watching movies and spending time together. This year since it is on a Sun we will spend the time in worship with our brothers and sisters in Christ. All your points are well made and right on. You posted some great points I had not thought about like the pedophiles. We chose not to participate because of the origins of the holiday and what it stands for. We may have watered it down and made it cute but it still stands as something that is not glorifying to God. Thank you again!!!
    Jenn Price
    pricefamilyx6 at yahoo dot com

  3. Feel free to join us at Chuck E. Cheese in Bridgeville, Jen. The girls would have a ball together!

  4. Hi, Mrs. Caye! I am still a fan, and I wanted you to know that I enjoyed your blog today. My family has never celebrated Halloween either. Instead, we have often celebrated Reformation Day, which also falls on the 31st. We would often read a biography or watch a documentary about the life of Martin Luther. Instead of celebrating this day of violence and corruption, we instead chose to honor the life of a man who literally attacked that same corruption, that was lurking within the Catholic church at the time, and ultimately brought about the Protestant Reformation.
    Thanks again for the post, and enjoy your time at Chuck E. Cheese!

  5. Thanks, Caitlin! I appreciate the positive feedback and the idea about Reformation Day. I didn't know that about your family. We all take a very unpopular stand, don't we?

    Jenn P. -- thank you for your comments as well!

  6. Hey Hana, we discussed this privately...but I wanted to share my support once again.

    You have some very valid points to share.

    You are such a huge blessing to so many! xoxox

  7. Thank you, Andrea. Your support means so much.


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