If the day ever came when we were able to accept ourselves and our children exactly as we and they are, then, I believe, we would have come very close to an ultimate understanding of what "good" parenting means.
It's part of being human to fall short
of that total acceptance -- and often far short.
But one of the most important gifts
a parent can give a child
is the gift of accepting that child's uniqueness.
-- Fred Rogers
The World According to Mister Rogers
Important Things to Remember